People seem to be offended very easily these days, usually about something that doesn't even make sense or matter.
But on the other hand, people are
sometimes too insensitive to others.
On the way home from a road trip, we
stopped at a McDonald's to have one of those dollar sundaes. We sat next to a
wall where I could "people watch."
Nearby, we watched a young woman in some kind of uniform that resembled
scrubs talking intently across the table to a young boy--maybe ten years old.
He wore khaki pants, belt, and a polo shirt that appeared to be a school
uniform. The child kept his head down, as though he didn't want to look at the
woman. She talked, he sat still and listened. But never looked up. After a few
minutes, she stood and walked toward the door, leaving the child in the booth.
I thought the woman appeared a little angry, but not really--just intense. Then
the boy slid out of the booth, stood up, but still looked down. From his pocket,
he removed a gadget that looked like a short metal rod.
Then he pulled on it, extending it out
to about three feet long. It had a white tip.
Then he looked up, and we saw his
sightless eyes. The woman stood by the door, and talked him toward her. He used
the cane to guide himself, making sure nothing was in his path.
We were a little stunned.
Two young men stood hear the counter,
obviously workmen on some crew, waiting for their orders. They watched just as
we did. One sort of snickered, but the other one looked at his friend and
solemnly shook his head.
One sensitive young man, one
And then there're the overly-sensitive
In fact, we take great pains in our
present society not to offend anyone or any group. Well, this becomes
incredibly cumbersome, in my opinion.
As I analyze the "too
sensitive" syndrome, I realize the real problem is misunderstanding of
others. If there's something in particular that we don't like or makes us
uncomfortable, then we'd like to have that changed to suit our own agenda.
We take it personally.
When our children were in school, they
would have some sort of problem that they wanted to relate to me in detail. I
listened as any good mom would do, but then asked what he/she intended to do
about it. The answer usually was, "Mom! Can't you do something?" Each
of them wanted me to change someone or some situation so they'd feel happy
again, no longer uncomfortable, and no longer sensitive to a predicament.
The best thing we taught our children
was to learn to cope in their environment. We cannot change everything--but we
can learn to cope and move along.
The little blind boy was learning to
cope with his environment.
The insensitive young man was learning that
his friend didn't like his attitude.
And the sensitive young man looked,
inwardly sympathized, but moved on.
"Live and let live; you cannot
What does all my rambling mean?
~*~We don't like to be criticized.
~*~We don't like to be wrong.
~*~We don't like to be on the losing
~*~We don't like a bad review.
~*~We don't like to appear uninformed.
~*~We don't like to be reprimanded.
~*~We don't like anyone telling us what
~*~We don't like to get out of our
~*~We don't like rejections.
~*~We don't like changes.
I'm still learning about the coping vs.
the active changing. I face this often with my writing, my publishers, my
editors, my...whatever. Do I cope and let them run the show? Am I being too
sensitive to push for a change? Am I too aggressive trying to make things go my
I wonder if I try hard enough sometimes
to understand the other side.
I admit...I'm not very good at it.
Shouldn't the other side try, too?
Celia Yeary-Romance...and a little bit 'o
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